These kids made me the mother of the groom.

Hello friends! Welcome to a place where you will find answers to your questions about being the mother of the groom.

If you’ve arrived here at the beginning of this journey, you may be wondering:

You’re where I was in the summer of 2012.

My son had proposed to his beautiful and lively girlfriend in April. With both just graduating from college, jobs, apartments and many other obstacles loomed between us and the big day. It was coming, though, probably within a year.

Gradually, I began to ask myself these questions. Within two weeks of the proposal, an experienced South African mother of the groom gave me the universally classic advice to  “shut up and wear beige.” This was the first time I had heard this phrase in my life!

The feeling that I was in new, uncharted territory became an increasingly nagging voice in my head that said: “Girl, you don’t know how to do this.”

And I didn’t.

But I did have experienced friends and Google. I asked them both a lot of questions. Some of the answers were surprising. Really surprising. (We’ll talk more about that later.)

Those answers are why we’re here. The research and my own experience plus the realization that many people find themselves in this same position every day gave birth to this project.

The mother of the bride usually plays a significant role in the wedding. The groom’s mom? This is a supporting character part. She’s The Other Mother.

Whether you’re a first-time mother of the groom or a veteran MOG, each journey is new. If you’re not sure what to expect, welcome to a Pretty Big Club. Since The Other Mother launched in 2013, hundreds of people have shared their dilemmas and scenarios here. I’ve heard from mothers of the groom, mothers of the bride, brides, and even grooms. This collaborative discussion and collective experiences have revealed many modern-day wedding challenges.

Here’s What I Know for Sure

You are not alone. Many mothers of the groom (and a lot of other people too) have questions about:

You’re probably searching for information in at least one of these areas. My goal is to answer the questions that brought you here and to help you keep things in perspective.

Here’s what else I know

It’s not about The Big Day. It’s about The Future.

If you don’t find what you’re looking for, ask away!